Friday, July 17, 2009

. . . with bated breath


In this episode of Sadie's Swimming lessons . . . "The New Teacher".
Sadie's swimming instructor tries his best but is obviously a beginner so the Big Guy showed up today to give a few pointers. His "bag o' tricks" was chock full of games and strategies that got all of the kids, yes, I said ALL OF THE KIDS participating in the fun. By the end of the lesson, Sadie was floating on her back with the help of the teacher, blowing bubbles, putting her face in the water (sort of) and generally having a fabulous time! Yeah, good teachers!
There was a bit of a disaster after the lesson however, when Sadie slipped and did a pretty serious face plant and ankle scrape. Many tears! Big Guy was quick with the ice pack, so he scored even more points in my book.
I am more and more convinced that my $50.00 is being well spent, if not just for the boost in self-confidence that my little darling is getting when she tries new things.
In our next episode, "Sadie jumps off the diving board". Okay, not really.

Wednesday, July 15, 2009

on the bribery of small children . . .


I signed Sadie up for her first bout of swimming lessons. When I announced the upcoming event, she didn't think it was such a good idea, insisting that she needed to wait until she was "bigger". Belle and I ramped up our manipulation and eventually Sadie came around to thinking that this was, in fact, a grand idea. Tuesday rolled around and when my little darling realized that this indeed was going to be a reality, with a real pool, real water, real little kids, and a real teacher she "Would Not" get into the pool. Eventually, I turned on the "mommy voice" and insisted that she MUST sit on the edge with her feet in the water and watch the other kids learn. Yes, I put her in the pool about 50 times in 30 minutes, but she finished the lesson with her feet in the water.
So, now, day two of swimming lessons? I resorted to bribery. I told Sadie that she would get a "treat" if she would sit on the 2nd step instead of the edge of the pool. Bribery worked again! Sadie was on the 2nd step for the whole lesson while the other kids played ring around the rosy, did back-floats and rocket ships and jumped off the edge. Progress?
Tomorrow, she will get a treat if she tries one more "new thing". At dinner tonight she agreed that the "new thing" would be jumping off the edge into the teacher's arms. We shall see what we shall see.

Monday, July 13, 2009

what was that I said . . .


I have discovered that one of the drawbacks of summer vacation is that it allows for much more naval gazing, which in some respects is not all bad but one must also deal with the ramifications of such introspection. Said introspection led me to made a huge decision regarding my relationship with my parents . Without going into the ugly, and lengthy, details I decided to draw some very clear boundaries. As my parents have never had any boundaries drawn for them, the prospects for any sort of relationship with them is probably not in the cards. The death of Tine's mother made my decision even more challenging. I am choosing to lose my parents, whereas Tine did not have any choice in the matter, and given that her relationship with her mother was so much more healthy, I believe she would not have made the same choice. That said, I could not go on living as if "mean parents are better than no parents".
Being the spiritual person that I am, I continue to hold out for a miracle, nothing is impossible with God. I will be waiting with my kind husband, beautiful children, cute dog, and my incredibly patient and loving friends.